Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Household Engineer

What a fun and informative morning we had at MOPS today!
Thank you to Christy for sharing some great ideas of organizing and cleaning in her house with all of her little ones a foot!
Here are 2 another "recipes" for super cleansers:
Cleanser 1
1 cup rubbing alcohol
1 cup water
1 Tbsp vinegar
Mix into spray bottle.

Cleanser 2
2 Tbsp ammonia
1/2 cup rubbing alcohol
1/4 cup vinegar
Mix in spray bottle and add water to fill line.

It is easy to get frustrated and overwhelmed with trying to keep house with little ones, but remembering to keep everything in perspective and correctly prioritized is important. Easier said than done, I know. I often get things out of whack. That is where prayer and asking God to be your portion for the day is so important! Our relationship with God should be the first thing we give attention to. I know again, easier said than done. But try to find some time to focus on God and His provision for you and your family maybe while putting away dishes, folding clothes, cooking dinner. Give Him praise for His creation. Perhaps as you push the stroller on a walk or push kids in a swing or weed a flower bed. Talk with your kids about God's Handiwork. Take time to pray with and for your kids. The power of Prayer is mighty. Often it is all we have as a line of defense to protect our kids.
Trying to get everything done each day and meet everyone's needs is too often the impossible dream. But building and fostering a relationship with God is so important for moms and families!
Praying for all of us moms and our relationships with God!

What's For Dinner, Mommy?

A very easy and yummy topping to hot dogs. Grilled hot dogs are the best!

Hot Dog Chili
Ingredients
1 lb ground chuck
1/2 can tomatoes
1/3-1/2 cup onion
Salt to taste
1 tsp chili powder

Directions:

Brown ground chuck and drain.
Add other ingredients and cook about 10 minutes.

Monday, April 26, 2010

Household Engineer

It is so easy to get overwhelmed with all of the responsibilties of keeping a comfortable and neat house and meeting the needs of all the people and other things we are involved in. I ran across this idea of Minimum Maintenance. What Minimum Maintenance is in a nutshell is this: acknowledging that every day a minimum amount of effort will go into that day to make it work.
Minimum Maintenance is NOT a thorough cleaning process. It is great because it a morning (or evening) run-through of the house, that gives you a successful start (or finish) to your day, no matter what happens. All you need is a kitchen timer and your favorite cleaners.

Here are some basic guidelines to help you make your daily routine Minimum Maintenance- Remember MINIMUM- JUST TO MAKE THE DAY WORK:
1. Spend NO MORE THAN 5 MINUTES! picking up and straightening. (Except the kitchen, which gets 15). When the timer goes off, move on to the next room!
2. Don't start cleaning too deeply during your morning run-through. Save that for later.
3. Don't let the needs of others control your life. (ex. telephone calls, checking email/blogs, TV, etc.)
4. Make the dinner decision early. (Like by 10:00am) Deciding early gives you more choices, even if you eat out. It gives you control. Try an easy monthly menu plan.
5. Start from the outside in. Clean off the top of the counter before you attack a drawer.
6. Categorize items as you go: start grouping stuff as you pick up. Like stuff with like stuff. Don't get try to get into specific, precise categories, just simple groups so that when you begin to really organize, half the job is already done.
7. Learn to pick up before the mess becomes too much. It is easy to ignore the little things lying about because the whole house seems messy. For today, just pick up the stuff you took out and used TODAY.
8. Make the picking-up process a habit. Clean as you go. Having cleansers and supplies in each bathroom make it easier to wipe over surfaces there as you pass thru.

Now here's an easy list of the Minimum Maintenance activities to show you what should be done.
Kitchen: dishes, countertops, sweep. (OK, it may take longer than 15 minutes.)
Entry: pick up, backpacks, shoes, stuff to take upstairs. No tripping over stuff as you come home.
Family Room: newspaper, books, remotes, trash, pillows straightened, laundry pile all over the couch
Bedrooms: The room owner should be responsible for his/her own room: beds made, clothes picked up off of floor, trash thrown away. Two year olds can't make their own bed, but spend a few minutes with your preschooler, helping them see what should be done. Give them a chance to "do" it and then you will probably "fix" it after they leave the room. It will take some time, but after a while they will grow more coordinated and able to do it. It takes practice and developing the expectations early on.
Mail Center: (You need one if you don't have one) junk mail thrown, bills and important papers where they go, etc. Hint: do this when you bring it in from the mailbox. Don't delay!

Start with the big items (bed, table top, countertops) and work down to smaller areas.
Carry a basket or wear an apron with large pockets to store things that need to be carried to another room.
You may not need to do ALL the rooms each day. And all the rooms may not need 5 minutes EVERY DAY.
Being flexible is important. With little kids, it will be nearly impossible to go from room to room without interruption. You maybe try picking up at night.
Keeping a basket in each room (living room, kitchen, bedroom, etc) that toys could be thrown into for a fast and easy clean up. It may not be the most organized way to deal with the toys, but it helps keep the floor from looking like the toy box exploded and makes it easy for the kids to help with a quick pick-up, too.

Setting realistic goals and accepting that a perfectly organized and clean house may not always be a reality with the little ones. But it is possible to maintain a comfortable and peaceful home for your family.

What's For Dinner, Mommy?

Creamy Italian Chicken
(from Fix-It & Forget-It)
Makes 4-6 servings

4 boneless, skinless chicken breast halves
1 envelope dry Italian salad dressing mix
¼ cup water
8-oz. pkg. cream cheese, softened
10-3/4-oz. can cream of chicken soup
4-oz. can mushroom stems and pieces, drained

Lightly grease slow cooker. Place chicken in the bottom. Combine salad dressing with water and pour over chicken. Cover and cook on low 3-4 hours. Combine cream cheese and soup until blended. Stir in mushrooms. Pour over chicken and cook until heated through. Serve over noodles or rice. Add a fresh green salad to complete the meal.

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Mini Errand Center

Here is a simple and fun idea that will make your weekly errand shopping a notch more efficient. Put together an errands mini zone, stocked with everything you need to plan and execute errands and shopping trips. Creating your errands mini zone is as simple as corralling the following items into a basket or bin.


A pre-printed grocery list / menu planning sheet
Paper or note pads for other shopping lists
Pens or pencils
A recipe binder loaded with your favorite recipes and meal ideas
A clipboard to use while shopping
Store circulars
Small accordion file for coupons, gift cards and frequent buyer cards

Now all that’s left to do is shop!

www.simplify101.com

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Parenting Tips

What to Do When Kids Are Annoying

Dealing with annoying behavior is not like disciplining for defiance or teaching a child to follow instructions. When it comes to impulsivity, the child can't always make changes just by choosing something different. In many cases, kids don't realize that they're being annoying and they don't know what to do to be more appropriate.

Furthermore, these patterns often come from habits that have been practiced for a long time. These reasons are not excuses for inappropriate behavior but they're a further indication that the job will take concentrated effort from the child and the parents.

Part of the issue is immaturity; the child hasn't learned how to pick up on the social cues or restrain behavior as much as we'd like. But these children need more than just time to grow up. They need concentrated work to develop two character qualities: self-control and sensitivity. These qualities not only help children when they're young, but they become tools for success as children get older.

Here are some working definitions for sensitivity and self-control to get you started with your children in this area:

Self-control is the ability to control myself so that Mom and Dad don't have to.

Self-control means to think before I act.

Self-control is the ability to talk about problems instead of grabbing, pushing, or hitting.

Self-control means that I limit the noises I make when others are around.

Self-control means that I focus on one thing until it gets done, before I move to the next.

Sensitivity means that when I walk into a room I look and listen before I speak.

Sensitivity is thinking about how my actions are affecting other people.

Sensitivity means thinking about how I could help someone else.

This parenting tip comes from Chapter 7 in the book Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character In You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN,BSN.

Monday, March 29, 2010

Easter

Painting with Peeps!

Do you need some ideas for some fun Easter activities? This is a fun but a little messy idea. The kids will love it!

Materials:
Construction Paper, Vanilla Pudding, Easter Peeps®
Cut large Easter egg shapes out of the construction paper. Put dollops of vanilla pudding in a small bowl and then use the Peeps® as the paintbrush‖. The Peeps® makes a perfect grip for little hands and gives a great sponge-effect for painting. The Peep® will change the color of the pudding! Once your child is finished painting, they can eat their paintbrush.
Note: Peeps® come in the traditional blue, pink, yellow, green and lavender!

Easter

Walk thru the Holy Week with Jesus

Read daily from the Bible the events that happened in Jesus’ life each day of the week leading up to Easter Sunday. There are several good children's Bible storybooks and the ICB is a good version for little ones to understand fairly well.

Palm Sunday - Jesus enters Jerusalem (Matthew 21:1-11)
Monday - Jesus clears the temple (Matthew 21:12-17
Tuesday - Jesus teaches (any passage from Matthew 21:23-24:51)
Wednesday - Jesus‘ death foretold (Scripture says nothing about what Jesus did this day. Read Isaiah 53:1-12)
Maundy Thursday - Jesus celebrates Passover (Matthew 26:17-30), Jesus is arrested and tried (Matthew 26:31-27:26)
Good Friday - Jesus is crucified (Matthew 27:27-66)
Saturday - Jesus lies in the tomb (Scripture says nothing about what Jesus did this day. Discuss what Jesus‘ followers might have thought and felt.
Resurrection Buns

Just like the tomb on Easter Sunday, these tasty buns are empty on the inside. Bake
these with your kids on Easter morning for a great lesson and a nice breakfast.

1 package Rhodes frozen rolls
24 large marshmallows
¼ cup (½ stick) melted butter
½ cup sugar mixed with ½ tsp
cinnamon

Thaw 24 rolls. Flatten each roll to about 3‖ in diameter. Place a
marshmallow in the center and pinch dough to seal it inside. Roll between your palms into
the size of a golf ball. Dip in butter and roll in cinna-mon sugar. Place on a lightly greased cookie sheet and let rise 30-60 minutes, until doubled.
Bake at 350ยบ for 15 to 20 minutes until golden brown. Cool on a wire rack.

Hash Brown Casserole

Ingredients
2 lb. bag of frozen hash browns
1 pint sour cream
2 cans cream of chicken soup
¼ c chopped onion or ½ tsp onion salt
12 oz. grated cheddar cheese

Directions
Mix together hash browns, sour cream, soup and onion and place in a lined 9 x 13 dish. Freeze.

On cooking day: Thaw completely. Bake at 350 degrees for 1 ½ hours. Top cheese the last half hour.


Bacon and Cheese Quiche

Ingredients
3 c. shredded Swiss cheese
12 strips bacon (cooked and crumbled)
3 T crushed French’s onion or green onions
5 eggs (beaten)
2 ¼ c half and half
salt and pepper to taste
2 T. Parmesan cheese
1- 9” unbaked pastry shell

Directions
Mix ingredients together and place in unbaked pie shell. Bake at 375 degrees for 30-35 minutes just until knife is the center comes out clean.

On cooking day: Thaw completely. To reheat, bake quiche at 350-375 for approximately 20-30 minutes or until heated through.

Parenting Tips

When Children React with Anger

The child who doesn't like an instruction or limitation may reveal frustration outwardly, sometimes in a small way and other times with downright revenge. One mom said, "I can tell when my thirteen-year-old son is frustrated and upset. He becomes more abrupt in his actions and words. His roughness sends a message that says, 'I'm not happy with you.'"

It's important to remember two rules of engagement when confronted by a child's anger. First, don't be afraid of your child's emotions. Sometimes children use outbursts as a form of self-protection to prevent parents from challenging them. View the display of emotion as a smoke screen and look past it to the heart of the issue. You may not confront in the heat of emotion but don't let your child's anger prevent you from correcting him or her. Parents too often see the emotion as a personal attack and react to it, losing any real benefit that could come from the interaction. That brings us to…

Rule of engagement #2: Don't' use your own anger to overpower your child's anger. Proverbs 15:1 says, "A gentle answer turns away anger." When you begin to lose it, take a break. Come back later and work on it some more.


"I've been thinking about the way you responded to me earlier when I asked you to do your homework. I'd like to share an observation that might be helpful for you. It seems that you believe you ought to be able to wait and do your homework just before bed or in the morning before you go to school. Is that what you're saying? One of the values I'm trying to teach you is that self-discipline often means we work first and play later. That's one of the reasons I require you to do your homework early every day. I'm trying to teach you an important value. I know that you may not agree with me, but I want you to know why I'm asking you to do homework before dinner."

Allowing emotions to settle first can bring opportunities for dialogue later, instead of turning the present issue into a battleground. Realize that kids will go away thinking about what you've said, even if their initial response looks as if they haven't heard you. This is especially true for teenagers. Prepare what you're going to say and choose your timing carefully without getting caught up in the emotion of the moment.


This parenting tip comes from the book Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character In You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN,BSN.

Couponing

Most families are concerned about meeting budget and finding ways to save money without necessarily sacrificing quality of product or services. Couponing is a great way to do that. We had a good discussion and sharing of ideas at our last meeting. Thank you to LeeAnn for starting the discussion and sharing some about her success in the last month. If you are looking for some budget plan sheets, there are several good ones available online- a Google search should give you a good starting spot.

We are going to share coupons at our first April meeting. So if you have some coupons that you are not going to use, bring them along and share- "One person's trash is another's treasure" so to speak.

Also, one of my infamous blogs has been blogging about the art of couponing. I don't link well to other sites but here is her address.

http://www.mommysideabook.com/

If you have a few minutes, visit her site and review what she has written about couponing. It may not be anything necessarily new to you, but she may have some good ideas or reminders for you to utilize.

I also found a Continuing Education class at GCSU on June 1 and 3 from 6-8pm -Couponing 101. It is $29 and promises to help you discover the secrets of couponing. If you are interested in the class, call 478-445-5277.

Some other ideas include:

There is a warehouse grocery store in Griffin, Wilson's Warehouse that has dented can goods. I haven't been yet, but one of my frugal friends goes about once a month to shop for her canned goods and finds it worth the drive. Just for your information.

Another idea is to consider sharing a wholesale club membership with another family and split items if needed. For example, 2 boxes of Corn Pops in a package- one to each family.

Angel Food Ministries- Lakeside Baptist on Hwy. 441 is a host site. Search for Angel Food Ministries or call the church (Eatonton phone, I believe)

Join a co-op- Southern Crescent Ministries in McDonough is the source. It takes 6 families to start a group. There is a waiting list to join as a group, but you might be able to find an existing group in town that has an opening.

The Farmers Market will open soon and is a good way to buy large amounts of veggies and fruits to freeze.

There are some butchers where you can buy fresh meat in bulk- In Macon, the Meat Gallery and another one that Kym mentioned. I am sure she will be happy to share some more information about their locations.

There are lots of ways we can save a little money as we put good, nutrious and happy meals on the table for our families. If you have any other ideas, please feel free to add a comment here or share at our next meeting in April.

Thursday, March 4, 2010

More than a Good Bible Study Girl

I have evidently had one of those mommy brain moments- Did you catch my boo-boo from last week? Well, if you wondered why the morning session of the Bible Study Girl study was longer than the evening one it is because I slipped into MOPS meeting mode! Yep, I was always horrible at keeping up with when church services and Bible studies started - Just ask my cute and very patient hubby! So I have tried to personally plan things for the same start times hence the 9am start and the 6pm start. Makes it simpler for my mommy brain. I just needed to adjust the ending times. The study session should be about an hour with 30 minutes extra to allow for arriving and settling kids and self in, some girl talk and prayer. We can always hang out longer afterwards if we want. Anyway, please plan on coming to this study. You will be blessed by Lysa's wisdom and her stories- I am not the only one who suffers from mommy brain moments.

Check out her blog www.lysaterkeurst.blogspot.com for a great study in Philippians. Go back to Februrary 22 post to begin. Again, you will be so blessed and encouraged by it.

Parenting Tips

Obey First and Then We'll Talk About It

When parents give an instruction but children don't want to comply or it's not convenient for them, sometimes they need to learn to "obey first and then we'll talk about it." This emphasizes obedience.

If little Brian has pulled a chair over to the counter and is climbing onto it, you may say, "Brian, we don’t climb on chairs."
"But I was just…"
"No, you need to get down. Obey first and then we'll talk about it." Once he gets down, discuss the problem and find a solution together.
"Karl, go get your pajamas on."
"I don't want to go to bed."
"No, obey first and then we'll talk about it."

To some parents this may sound like blind obedience. We've all heard stories about people who were led into cultish activity because they couldn't think for themselves. No parent wants a child to fall into a pattern of blindly following a leader's instructions, but evaluating instructions is an advanced skill.

Many parents have gone too far in the other direction ending up with children who can't follow simple instructions without a dialogue. Parents sometimes believe they have to talk their child into wanting to obey. Inadvertently, these parents teach their children that if you don't like a request then that's enough reason to resist it. These children make poor employees, develop selfish attitudes about following someone else's leadership, and have a difficult time in relationships because they haven't learned how to sacrifice their own agenda for others.

Talking is important but sometimes even we, as adults, must obey first and then understand later. God asked Abraham to sacrifice his son without fully understanding and then considered it faith for him to obey. Peter didn't know why he was to go to Cornelius' house but went anyway only to discover that God wanted to bring salvation to the Gentiles. Philip was asked to leave a revival in Samaria and go out into the wilderness, not knowing why, but when he got there he led an Ethiopian man to Christ.

Evaluating instructions is an advanced skill and will become important later on but children need to learn that sometimes we all must "obey first and then we'll talk about it."

This parenting tip comes from the book Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Just Desserts

I was reminded that it didn't matter if the truffles turn out looking perfect so let the kids help. Despite the final presentation they are still yummy, yummy! Enjoy!!

SIMPLE OREO TRUFFLES

16 oz package of Oreos

8 oz package cream cheese, softened

16 oz semi-sweet baking chocolate, melted

Directions

Completely crush Oreos and place in a bowl. Add cream cheese. Mix until blended. Roll cookie mixture into 1-inch balls. Dip in chocolate and place on wax paper to cool. Decorate truffles as desired.

Refrigerate until firm, about one hour. Eat them all. Or refrigerate again.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Becoming More than a Good Bible Study Girl

Becoming More than a Good Bible Study Girl Bible Study is going to be offered on Monday mornings beginning March 15 at NCC from 9am until 11:30am and on Monday evenings from 6pm until 7:30pm at NCC. Both offerings will have childcare provided. The cost of the the book and the participant's guide is $14. If you are interested in joining this 6 week study or would like more information about the study, call Mary Lynn or email her at nccmops@gmail.com. Below is a brief introduction to the study by Lysa. (More information posted below on February 18.) Don't forget to turn down the playlist at the bottom of this page. Check out Lysa's blog now for some great thoughts and scriptures to lead into this study. www.lysaterkeurst.blogspot.com


What's For Dinner, Mommy?

Baked Potato Haystacks

Ingredients:

10 potatoes, baked
1 head lettuce, shredded
1 lg. onion, chopped fine
1-16 oz. bag of baby carrots, finely chopped
2 lb. lean ground beef, browned and drained
1-18 oz. can sloppy joe sauce
1 -28 oz. can pork and beans
1 - 13 oz. bag Doritos, crushed
2-10 ¾ oz. cans cream mushroom soup
1 lb. Velveeta cheese
2 T. milk

Directions:
1. Bake your potatoes in the oven at 350 for about an hour until tender.
2. Shred your lettuce; chop onions and carrots fine. Put each in a separate serving bowl with a spoon. Set aside.
3. Place crushed Doritos in a separate serving bowl with a spoon. Set aside.
4. In a saucepan, combine sloppy joe sauce, ground beef and pork and beans; heat until bubbly. Keep warm.
5. In a separate saucepan, dilute cream of mushroom soup with milk and Velveeta cheese on low heat until well blended. Keep warm.
6. At serving time, have guests begin with their baked potato on a large plate, sliced open and mashed with a fork. As they walk down the buffet line, they top their potato with the toppings of their choice in this order: sloppy joe; lettuce; onions; carrots; cheese sauce; ending with Doritos.
Serves 10.

Golden Burger Spirals

Ingredients:

•1 pound ground beef
•1 medium onion, chopped
•1 medium green pepper, chopped
•1 can (10-3/4 ounces) condensed golden mushroom soup, undiluted
•1 can (8 ounces) tomato sauce
•1-1/2 cups (6 ounces) shredded cheddar cheese, divided
•1/2 teaspoon salt
•1 package (8 ounces) spiral pasta, cooked and drained

Directions:

In a large skillet, cook the beef, onion and green pepper over medium heat until the meat is no longer pink; drain. Add the soup, tomato sauce, 1 cup cheese and salt. Stir in pasta.
Transfer to a greased 2-1/2-qt. baking dish. Sprinkle with remaining cheese. Bake, uncovered, at 350° for 30 minutes or until bubbly.
Yield: 4-6 servings.

Train Up a Child

February is the month we focus on love and showing love to family and friends. But have you ever thought about love involving sacrifices? You know as a mom that you sacrifice sleep, girlish figure, time for reading or other interests, etc. all for the love of your kids. You probably have sacrificed your own interests, careers, etc. for your husband. If you think honestly about it, you can probably name quite a few things he has sacrificed for you and the kids as well. Love is great in that we get the benefit of loving someone, but it also is great in that we get to give up something for someone else. Kids are naturally self-centered and self-serving. Here are a few ideas to get the conversation started about sacrificing for the ones we love. Ultimately, our greatest example is God in that He sacrificed His only Son, Jesus for us- the ones He loves most dearly.

Made With Love

Make a special dessert (heart shaped cookies or Rice Krispie treats or brownies cut out with a heart-shaped cutter) for someone that could use a little extra love. Make homemade cards to take with you and surprise them.

Secret Sacrifice

Write each person's name on a slip of paper and put them all in a bag. Let each person draw a name, but tell them to keep it a secret. Choose one day for each person to sacrifice and to do acts of kindness for the person whose name they drew. Remind them to do it SECRETLY!

Brainstorm for ideas—do their chores, make their bed, write them a note, give them a small gift, play a game with them, etc.

At the end of the special day, let each person to guess who was secretly showing them kindness.

Ask:
How did you feel when someone else sacrificed his or her time and did something for you?
How did you feel when you sacrificed for someone else?

Read 1John 3:16 (By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.)

Ask:
How did God sacrifice for us? (He gave His only Son, Jesus, to die for us.)
HE is the example for us to follow.

Someone's Trash is Another Kid's Treasure

If you haven't done any cleaning out after the holidays, it's not too late. Ask your children to look through their toys and find one or two toys (still in good shape) to give to someone in need. Donate them to a shelter, a rescue mission, or a family that could use them.

Thursday, February 18, 2010

More than a Good Bible Study Girl

I could write a book about Lysa TerKeurst and her amazing talent as a speaker and writer. She is absolutely one of my favorite people! But I will simply tell you that she is a real woman dealing with the same real issues as you and I and that she wants to help other women grow in a relationship with Christ. Becoming More than a Good Bible Study Girl is her newest book. I have read it two times and every time I walk away with my sides hurting from laughing, tissues on the floor from crying and my toes smarting a bit. She writes with Southern wit and the wisdom of someone who has baggage from past choices and situations. But she is a daughter of God and is passionate for Him and other women to know Him. It doesn't matter if you already are in relationship with Christ or just searching for something, she is authentic and open about where she has been, why and where she is now and wanting to be.

I am going to conduct a 6 week Bible study based on this book beginning in March. The book itself and the companion study guide are $14 before March 1. I am willing to offer the study in the mornings and/or on Monday evening. If you are interested in the study, email or call me and let me know that you are interested and which time (morning or evening) you are interested in joining. I will have the exact specifics within the week. Check out the video of Lysa talking about the Bible study. (This is her 3rd video I have posted on this blog- Did I mention she is one of my absolute favs? and her husband owns a Chic-Fil-A! Girls,need I say more?!)

Monday, February 15, 2010

Marriage Can Be Hard

Valentine's is a wonderful holiday to focus on loving and expressing love to our darling husbands and sweet children. But loving them is not a once a year option. It is a daily choice. Sometimes loving them is easy. But sometimes it is really hard. Marriage, in particular, can be challenging. My bloggy friend, Lysa TerKerust, has some thoughts about this that I thought some of us might find encouraging. Remember to mute the playlist at the bottom of the page before listening to her.

Monday, February 8, 2010

Parenting Tips

Anger Confuses Correction

A good correction routine teaches children that they must change. Their current course of action will not work. It's unacceptable and needs adjusting. Unfortunately the clear message that the child has a problem and needs to work on it is sometimes missed because of parental anger. A parent's harshness can confuse the learning process. Instead of thinking, "I'm here taking a Break because I did something wrong," the child thinks, "I'm here taking a Break because I made Mom mad."

The child's focus changes from correcting what he or she did wrong to avoiding parental anger. It's important to remember that your anger is good for identifying problems but not good for solving them. When you're tempted to respond harshly, be careful to take a moment and think about what you need to teach in the situation. It's easy to react with anger when your kids do the wrong thing but it's more helpful to move into a constructive correction routine.

For example, Dad yells, "I've had it! I called you five times and you didn't come, so I'm not taking you to the party!" The child gets a mixed message. Is missing the party the consequence for not coming when called, or is it the consequence for making Dad angry?

Children who grow up with explosive parents learn to focus more on pleasing people than on living with convictions about right and wrong. They may learn to make changes in life, but not because they're determined to do what's right. Rather, they make changes to avoid upsetting people; they become people pleasers or just plain sneaky. Kids then believe that what they did was okay as long as Mom or Dad didn't find out. As long as no one gets angry, then there's no problem.

When you make a mistake and correct in anger, it's important to come back to your child and talk about it afterwards. Clarify what was wrong, why the consequence was given, and apologize for your harshness.

Taken from "Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids,” by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller.

Parenting Tips

"But My Anger is Justified"

Some view their anger as justified because they are right and others are wrong. They believe that being right is the only ticket required to launch into an adult temper tantrum. But saying "He made me angry" implies that external events require emotional intensity. The dad who links the trigger (what "made" him angry) and response (what he does with his anger) too closely ends up believing that others have made him the way he is.

When parents do this, they often blame their kids for problems and rarely take responsibility for their own emotions. In many cases, of course, the child is indeed wrong. It isn't helpful, though, to expect our children to bear the responsibility of our anger in addition to what they did wrong. The mom who says, "I wouldn't have to get angry if my kids would listen the first time," has fallen into the trap of blaming her children for her angry responses.

The truth of the matter is that it doesn't take much intelligence to see something wrong, but it takes wisdom to know how to respond to it. There's a big difference between a button that pops up on a turkey to announce that it's done and a cook who knows how to make a great dinner. Some people are like those little turkey buttons—whenever something goes wrong they pop up with angry reactions and they try to justify abusiveness because they see a problem.

It's not enough to be right in life; parents also need to be wise. Real wisdom knows how to respond in a way that brings change, not revenge. As parents, we don't just want to punish our kids for doing something wrong; we want to help them change their hearts. Anger may reveal what's wrong, but it's rarely a good solution to a problem. Once you identify an offense, it's best to consider how to motivate change.

This parenting tip comes from the book Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN,BSN.

How to Show Your Man You Love Him

The best way to show love for someone is to simply and intentionally pray for them.
If you are happily married and especially, if you are struggling in your marriage, the man you married should be the first one you pray for daily. Even if you are no longer married, praying for the father of your children is very important as he probably still has some influence in their lives.
Let’s Pray:
Dear Lord, I pray for my husband, from head to toe.
His Head –That he will look to You as Lord of his life. (1 Corinthians 11:3)
His Mind – That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)
His Eyes –That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turn his eyes from sin. (Matthew 6:13, Mark 9:47)
His Ears – That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him. (1 Kings 19:1, Psalm 32:8)
His Mouth – That his words will be pleasing to You. (Proverbs 19:1)
His Neck – That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful. (James 4:10, Joshua 1:8-9)
His Heart – That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. (Deuteronomy 6:5, Proverbs 3:5)
His Arms – That You will be his strength. (Psalm 73:26)
His Hands – That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. (Ecclesiastes 3:13, 5:19)
His Feet – That You will order his steps and that he will walk in Your truth. (Proverbs 4:25, Psalm 26:3)
-Sharon Jaynes

An additional idea is to write out the verses on an index card and add picture of your husband to back.

Good Morning, Family!

Yankee Spoiler

1 cup cooked grits (1 cup water and 3 Tablespoons of "Quick Grits")
1 3/4 cup milk, heated in the microwave
1 stick of butter, melted
4 eggs, beaten
1 box Jiffy Corn Muffin Mix
1 lb. Jimmy Dean Hot Sausage, browned with grease drained off
1 1/2 cups shredded cheddar cheese

Combine all ingredients except cheese. Pour into a greased casserole dish. Top with cheese. Bake at 325 for 45-50 minutes. YUM!!!

Family Style French Toast

INGREDIENTS:
2/3 cup packed brown sugar
½ cup butter, melted
2 tsp. ground cinnamon
6-8 eggs, lightly beaten
2 cups milk
1 loaf Texas toast bread
Jelly-Roll Pan

DIRECTIONS:
Combine brown sugar and cinnamon. Spread evenly over the bottom of a greased jelly roll pan. Drizzle melted butter over top of the sugar mixture. Combine milk and eggs in mixing bowl. Dip each slice of bread in and soak, then lay on top of sugar mixture in single layer of entire pan. Pour any remaining egg mixture over top of slices. Bake uncovered at 350 degrees for 25-30 minutes until golden brown.


Pecan Pie Muffins


1 c light brown sugar
1 c pecans, chopped
1/2 c flour
2/3 c butter, melted
2 eggs, beaten

Spray 20 mini muffin cups with nonstick spray (I used butter); set aside. Preheat the oven to 350.
In a medium bowl, mix all of the ingredients together. Spoon the batter into the muffin cups evenly.
Don’t overfill the cups!

Bake for 18-20 minutes. The edges will be crispy. Do not over bake. Remove the muffins and cool on a wire rack.

~Freeze~
When the muffins are completely cool, place them in a freezer bag and freeze up to 2 months.

What's For Dinner, Mommy?

Sunni's Cheesy Enchiladas
Ingredients:
(I always half this recipe)
24 flour tortillas
2 lbs. ground beef
2 lbs. Velveeta, cubed
2 cans Rotel tomatoes
4 (8-oz.) cartons sour cream
¼ cup butter
2 med. onions, chopped
1 dash garlic salt
Salt & pepper to taste

Brown meat with one chopped onion. Add garlic salt and salt and pepper. Drain. Coat large sauce pan with non-stick spray. Add sour cream and tomatoes, mix well. Add butter and heat on medium heat. Add Velveeta, stirring constantly. Add the remaining chopped onion. Turn heat to low and simmer for about 5 min. The cheese/butter should be melted by this point. Add a portion of the sauce to meat. Spoon meat mixture into tortillas. Lay in casserole dish, seam down. Pour remaining sauce over enchiladas. Cover and bake for 15 min. at 350 degrees.

*I like to save a little bit of the cheese sauce to have with tortilla chips. Yum!

HAMBURGER GRAVY
Ingredients
2 pounds lean ground beef
1/4 cup all-purpose flour
1 quart milk
salt and pepper to taste
1 teaspoon onion salt
1 small onion, chopped (optional)

Directions
1.Place hamburger in a large, deep skillet. Crumble and cook over medium high heat until evenly brown. Remove from heat and sprinkle flour over cooked hamburger. Stir until evenly coated and all fat is absorbed.

2.Place skillet over medium heat, add 1/2 of milk and stir until gravy begins to thicken. Add remaining milk until desired consistency has been reached and gravy comes to a boil. Season with salt, pepper and onion salt.

3.Serve over mashed or boiled potatoes, toast or biscuits. Add fresh chopped onion if desired.

Serve with mashed potatoes and green beans.

Monday, January 4, 2010

What's For Dinner, Mommy?

La Madeleine Tomato-Basil Soup
Ingredients
4 cups tomatoes, peeled, cored and chopped, or 4 cups canned whole tomatoes, crushed
4 cups tomato juice
12 - 14 washed fresh basil leaves, plus additional for garnish, chopped
1 cup whipping cream
1/2 cup sweet, unsalted butter, softened
Salt to taste
1/4 teaspoon cracked black pepper
Crusty bread (optional)

Directions
Combine tomatoes and juice in saucepan. Simmer for 30 minutes over medium-low heat. Cool slightly, then place in a blender or food processor. Add basil and process to puree; this will have to be done in batches.

Return mixture to saucepan. Add cream and butter. Stir over low heat until butter and cream are incorporated. Stir in salt and pepper before serving. Garnish with more fresh basil and serve with fresh, crusty bread. Makes 8 servings.

Recipe by: La Madeleine French Bakery & Cafe, Dallas TX

The New Year

10 Ways to Reenergize Your Life in 2010
by Aby Garvey

The New Year offers you an ideal opportunity to start anew. You have a blank calendar and, in essence, a fresh canvas for your life. What will you fill yours with?

Ahead are simple ideas designed to inspire you to refresh and reenergize your life in the year ahead. Look at the ideas like they’re dishes on a buffet line. The notion isn’t to put all of these ideas on your plate (at least not all at once), but instead to pick just one or two that appeal to you most—just as you’d do in a real buffet line. Then, once you have some tasty ideas on your plate, you’ll make progress on them just like you would any good meal—one bite at a time.

1. Reflect. Start by taking a look back on the past year (or if you’re feeling really motivated, the past decade). What were the high points for you? How about the lows? What positive changes did you make in your home and life over the course of the last year? Both the highs and the lows offer opportunities to learn and grow. And by focusing on your successes over the past year, you will face 2010 with renewed confidence and optimism. So take a look back, tuck the good stuff away in your pocket, and then draft a short list of simple changes you can make to refresh your life in the New Year.

2. Renegotiate your goals. If you set any goals or New Year’s resolutions last year, take another look at them. Which ones do you still want to pursue or make progress on? Keep the good ones—those that inspire you and energize you, and renegotiate those goals that no longer fit your life or the direction you’d like to move in the year ahead.

3. Reprioritize your to-do list. With your renegotiated goals in mind, reprioritize your to-do list. Put at the top of your list those projects that move you closer to your new goals, and move the less important tasks to the bottom of your list.

4. Release anything that is getting in the way of your goals. Let go of any negative self-talk or self-doubt that is tripping you up or weakening your confidence. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right.” So first become aware of any beliefs or messages you give yourself that say you can’t do something you want to do, and replace them with a new, affirming message. For example, if you say, “I’m so disorganized” to yourself, replace that message with, “I’m learning to be organized!” In doing so, you clear the mental pathway for your success.

5. Reorganize. Let go of physical clutter that is getting in the way of creating the life you want. Let go of useless objects and items that represent past memories and life events that no longer fit where you’re headed now. And let go of items that don’t make you feel good. Eliminating clutter energizes your physical space, and in the process reenergizes your spirit.

6. Reschedule. As you transfer dates and appointments into your new calendar, reschedule your days to allocate a block of time for yourself. Use this time to make progress on your goals, get in a bit of exercise, or to simply relax and reenergize. Schedule time for yourself first, and then, work everything else around it.

7. Renegotiate your obligations. Use your blank calendar as an opportunity to take stock of your current obligations. Which appointments and events are you excited about, and which ones feel like drudgery? Give yourself permission to let yourself go of anything that isn’t working for you, is no longer necessary, or no longer makes you happy. In the past few months Jay and I did this exercise. He doesn’t enjoy unloading the dishwasher, and I had grown very tired of grocery shopping—so we decided to swap. I unload the dishwasher every day, and Jay handles the grocery shopping. The best part of this arrangement is that we both feel like we drew the long straw!

8. Replace an unhealthy habit with one new, healthier habit. Identify just one thing you habitually do that doesn’t serve you or is inconsistent with your goals. If you want to live in a clutter-free environment, but habitually place the daily mail in stacks on the counter, replace this habit with a new habit: handling the mail each and every day. By focusing on just one habit, and replacing it with a new more productive habit, you set yourself up for success.

9. Resolve to be kinder and gentler with yourself in 2010. Be the sort of friend to yourself that you would like to have in others. Speak kindly to yourself, and look for all the things you do well and do right. Pay less attention to your weaknesses and pay more attention to your strengths.

10. Remember to do one thing at a time. Over the past holiday season you enjoyed delicious meals and you savored them bite by bite. Remember that change, like enjoying a good meal, happens one delicious bite at a time. Go easy on yourself, be courageous, and allow yourself to create a life that fills your heart with joy.

www.simplify101.com

Friday, January 1, 2010

A New Year's Prayer for You

Father in heaven, thank You that You are All Authority in heaven and on earth. Thank You that You led each woman here today. You know her every need, her deepest desires, and her hurting places. Lord, as she seeks to know You more, would You open the eyes of her heart to see the wonderful things in Your law?

Father, we confess that so often we live lives that do not honor You. Our actions and our Words seem so far from You. But, we do want to live lives that please You, so we ask today for You to soften our hearts to receive what Your sweet Spirit has to speak to us. Give us a hunger and a thirst for Your Word. As You reveal it to us, help us through the power of Your Holy Spirit to listen and obey. You tell us Your Word is living and active, like a double-edged sword. Father, we invite You to use it now to penetrate the deepest recesses in our hearts.

Give us hearts that desire You and Your Truth above all else. Your Word tells us that if we lack Wisdom, we need only ask and You will give it liberally. So we ask today for a fresh filling of Your Wisdom. Give us the strength to walk in Your Truth, no matter the cost. Guard our hearts and keep our eyes fixed on You. Grow in us the fruit of Your Spirit…those things that will make us more like You. As we study Your Word, fill us and saturate us with more of You!!

Today, Father, we surrender our past and look to the future, thanking You that we are a new creation. No matter what we have done before today, we have Hope in You to take all things and use them for Your good and the good of Your Kingdom. Thank You that You are Faithful. Thank You that we can make our plans but You will direct our steps. We trust in You to do a mighty work in us through us this year and ca rry it on to completion until the day we step into eternity with You.

Lord, we love You. Make our lives a living testimony of Your Love. We ask this in
the powerful and mighty name of Your Son, Jesus Christ our Lord who will do immeasurably more than we could ever ask or imagine. AMEN.

About Me

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